In this episode you’ll hear:

• Emily’s simple 6 recipes for living a joyful life — regardless of your personal circumstances.
• Why Emily does what she calls a Bliss Walk each day (come rain or shine), what it entails and its irreplicable benefits.
• What she learned from becoming a master of her misery — and how she flipped the script and became a positivity expert and joyful life coach.
• Emily’s “get out of a funk” list when she’s feeling down and finds joy in the mundane.

About Emily Klein

Emily Stulman Klein, founder of Live a Joyful Life, is a Joyologist (positivity expert + joyful life coach), author and chef. Emily’s 25 years of experience in personal development and fulfillment have made her an authority on helping women (and heart-centered men) to stop comparing and start living even when life doesn’t look like the brochure. Emily works with clients both live and virtually, one to one and in groups. Emily lives in Montclair, NJ with her 13 year old daughter, their large brown dog and small gray bunny.

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LINKS:

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Transcript:

Christie:
Today, I’m speaking with Emily Klein and you’ll hear in this episode, Emily, Simple six recipes for living a joyful life, regardless of your circumstances and why Emily does what she calls a Bliss walk each day, come rain or shine, what it entails and it’s awesome benefits you as well. Also learn about how she became a master of her misery and how she flipped the script and became a positivity expert and joyful life coach. Well, also hear her get out of a funk list that she uses when she’s feeling down and wants to find joy in the mundane Emily Stulman Klein is the founder of Live a Joyful Life. She is a, Joyologist a positivity expert and joyful life coach, author, and chef her 25 years of experience in personal development and fulfillment have made her an authority on helping women and heart-centered men to stop comparing and start living.

Christie:
Even when life doesn’t look like a brochure Emily works with clients, both live and virtually one to one and in groups. All right, welcome. Emily to the show. Thank you so much. I’m so excited to be here. Good. Yeah. Well, we have some interesting world circumstances happening around and, and no matter what time your listening to the show, it could be next year for all we know, but this certain situation that we’re faced with is, is helping us all to look at our lives and look at our business and causing us to see what needs to be reinvented and what needs some creativity, what needs some changes.

Christie:
So that’s what we’re going to be talking about today. Some recipes for joy and playing full out and living without any regret. Awesome. So let’s do it. So you, like, we were talking before the show and we just decided, Hey, we better press record. We’re about to say something really brilliant. So it wasn’t, that’s how it is. And you’re like, I should have written that down. Right. You should have, you know, and you were just saying that to like, this is exactly what I’m

Emily:
Always listening to this podcast today. And, and I think it was say, I don’t know any way. And so the w the woman said, if you want people to be able to read your mind, you have to write it down. And I was like, that is so brilliant, but why is that was so fitting and so appropriate right now is because with this whole Corona thing going on, I have all these daily practices that contribute to my Joyful Life and it occurred to me that an order to share them so that other people would have in the same tools that I had, that I should write them down. And so there really is a recipe for joy.

Emily:
And whether it’s in your personal life and your business life as a whole, it’s so important to, to have daily practices.

Christie:
I totally agree. I have daily practices myself and its made all the difference. So what is it that you do it right

Emily:
In your practice? I’m going to tell you in one second, before this, I want to say that Recipes really our opinions. And so sometimes it’s just like the, not necessarily the thing, but the, the category is that perhaps the thing could fall into that is the thing that resonates for you. Because for example, I have, I have so many friends that are entrepreneurs and everybody’s got somebody they follow. And I don’t want to, I’m not going to say the name, but like, just cause I don’t want to make anybody feel bad, but like come in.

Emily:
And also ’cause, it doesn’t matter because their thing doesn’t resonate for me. And so in this particular thing there, like you have to read a book a week and this is one of the books that you should read as your Bible. And so this friend of mine gave me this book to read it. And I have to tell you, like, if I can’t sleep at night, this week

Christie:
Sounds pretty thrilling.

Emily:
We have to say the person that wrote this book is a bazillionaire with a jillion followers, but they’re their strategy. Doesn’t work for me. The recipe does not make what I want to eat, what I want my life to be. So for me, it it’s really simple. And I actually wrote it down because so many people are feeling so lost right now. They’re stuck in their house, you know, for a lot of us, we work from home. So it kind of feels normal, but for a lot of people, it isn’t, and everyone’s like wanting some sort of control about what’s going on out there and you can’t control what’s going on out there as well.

Emily:
Like the truth is you and I were talking about this. When we first met what’s going on out, there has nothing to do with joy and what’s going on in here. So to get to my recipe, it starts with moving your body. It could be kickboxing in the basement. It could be a dance party. It could be dancing with your kids or dizzy with your hands up. It could be a striptease, like anything to move your body and literally get the blood flowing. That’s the first thing, the second thing is eat something delicious.

Emily:
Like this is not the time. And Life in general, like you want to enjoy Life sometimes things are in order to like, I’m watching my, this or my that, you know, you can, you can be creative about that, but eating delicious things like this is not the time and life was not the time to suffer. Really also nourish your mind, read something that feels exciting to you. Like this book that my friend gave me that his like, really like, huh, but not for me. It’s like right now I’m reading a book called I think its called when God winks at you.

Emily:
And it’s all about coincidence and like vets, like God showing you the city, God winks. It’s like this great little book, but I feels, it feels delicious in my mind. And, and for my mind set and for my day for my life and for how I show up in the world from myself or my daughter for my clients, for the world at large.

Christie:
Yeah. It feeds your soul much like your breakfast that you enjoyed and I can’t help. But notice when you were talking, I just had this aha. It was like enjoy and joy. Like joy is in the word enjoy. And the key to having joy, which I would always get upset at people who would say, Oh, you got to find joy in the journey. And I’m like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like you don’t know my life. You don’t know what I’m going through right now. It’s pretty difficult or whatever. Like don’t tell me to have joy when you know, I’m facing whatever it is. Right. And I’m in a different spot now. Right.

Christie:
But I have found that finding things, you love, finding things that you enjoy is really how we experienced joy. It’s not external to us. You know, it’s not found and all these achievements and reading books this week and you know, making sure were at the gym three hours a day or whatever, the list of achievements that some of these podcasts gives you to do. Right. It’s really one of the enjoyment.

Emily:
Absolutely. I could not agree with you more. I’m going to take it a step away from this recipe because what you just said reminded me. I realize the other day that familiar and familial is almost the exact same word. Sure. Which is why so many things that people seek out for regardless of whether or not they really wants to is because it’s familiar because it’s the millennial because it’s what they grew up

Christie:
With a good point. So

Emily:
I love the words. Yes I do too. Where’s our like the best thing ever and choosing the right one, it makes creation,

Christie:
Which is also related to joy

Emily:
100%.

Christie:
That’s why we love words

Emily:
So much. Like the other day I was, I was working on, this is something I was writing for my website and I put the word dispensing and now he’s like no sharing. Yes. It’s such, it’s a complete, it’s two completely different things and both would communicate something totally not the same thing.

Christie:
Totally agree. And, and its interesting to like I ran into that the other day. It’s like, it’s so easy to say, use this in order to get that. But then how about using something like a word, like understand or embrace, you know, it, it, it, it’s just so much more beautiful and almost like a layer of emotion to it, which pierces into people’s minds. Even further than one of those common words like you lose or get, right.

Emily:
Yes. I know the thing is that I was listening to something or I was reading something on, but I don’t remember what it was, but it was something where people where like everyone was like judging everybody else. And someone’s like, well what about having compassion instead of judgment? And yes, they are a completely different words, but they mean completely different things. And what a concept to choose compassion. Absolutely. If only we could do that in a world

Christie:
And you know, if everyone had a sign around their head saying, here’s what I’m dealing with right now, we would have a lot more compassion, but that’s not how the world works. We just have to pretend we don’t know their story. We haven’t walked in their shoes and, and not to judge someone when we’re on a totally different part of our journey than they are.

Emily:
Yes. It, and like, I think we need to know what to choose compassion. Yeah. You know, just compassion, compassion for everyone. I was just saying like,

Christie:
Cause we’re in a physical world, wouldn’t it be easier if everyone had just to sign around their neck saying, you know, you know, I just went through, you know, this situation, you know, be kind to me or something, but we

Emily:
Don’t. And we have,

Christie:
We have to remind ourselves to be kind to anyway. Yeah. To be kind anyway, despite appearances. Right. Well lets get back to your recipe.

Emily:
Oh yes. So then Take something to completion every day. So don’t just start something like literally have something that you can experience producing a result. It could be anything at all, but there’s something about the satisfaction. And dare I say a joy that comes from beginning to end something measurable and yummy Zen. There is also do something in service of someone else.

Emily:
It can be anything in the last, but not least reached out and connect with someone that’s important to you. This is my recipe for Joyful life. If you do those things every day, whether it’s like one minute or 20 minutes, it literally will transform the way life occurs for you.

Christie:
I love it. Now, have you ever noticed if you didn’t do one of those things, any consequences that happened throughout the day or any funny stories?

Emily:
Yeah. Well, well back before I was divorced, but before that, my ex sometimes, so I take this a five mile walk every morning and it is me. It is me and God. It is my divine time and I call it my Bliss Walk now I call it my Bliss Walk because of the divine nature of it. But also because if I said I have to take a far more of a walk every day, it sounds miserable. So it sounds miserable, but like I’m taking my Bliss Walk. Ooh, can I come? But so the funny thing was that on the days and it’s for my head, I mean yes body.

Emily:
Yes. But head minds, like all of that, it was on the days that I didn’t do it, my ex would be like, Hey don’t you want to go for a walk? Because he noticed is that I needed that. And it was 100%. Like I literally don’t miss it. It can, it can snow it I I do not care. I will dry. My shoes will dry. I am so blessed to have a warm home, to get back to and dry close to put on.

Christie:
Yeah. Its true. How easily walking out in nature will flip a switch in your brain in your mind. That’s great. It’s a great form of meditation for people who aren’t wanting to own and sit in a Lotus position too. Right?

Emily:
Totally. I once did this. I used to live in the city and there’s this place called integral yoga. And so it was a store, but it was also a yoga studio, a meditation studio. And they had something called a walking meditation and it was like, whew, that’s right up my alley. I’m going to love it. I was so wrong. It was like, we all stood in a circle like, and walked really slowly in this circle. And like I’m someone like, I like to move it, move it. Like I liked to move it, move it like,

Christie:
So there’s a lot of high achieving performers that like to do that too. Yeah, it is. Yeah. Meditation. So its been good. Like I, I enjoy it. I didn’t always, and I actually fought against it, but I definitely have noticed too, like when walking or even on the treadmill, you know, ideas will come that don’t normally come just because its like, I don’t know what the science of it, but I know there’s science to it because I have read it before. But its like that, that rhythmic walking, you know, occupy as a part of your brain. So it unleashes like the, the, the center where you get all your ideas and inspiration, like why you call it your divine time because I’m sure you don’t have ideas.

Emily:
Well I’m so to tell you all my secrets. So when I leave the house, I say, good morning, God, good morning source. Good morning spirit. Good morning universe. Good morning, Archangel. Michael, what do you have for me today? And then I go and I find that like I don’t even get a block before stuff just starts coming to me. And I used to walk with this little microphone and a little, a little a recorder and then I would get home and I would type it into my, into the computer. But now because of the iPhone, I just put it in notes.

Emily:
I have no clue to open and then I just hit the microphone. So I, I say whatever the thing is and when I get home, its already on my computer. Oh nice. It’s key notes app in the notes app. Yeah. I have sometimes, sometimes it doesn’t quite, you know how the technology, when it works as awesome. And then sometimes you’re like, yeah, yeah, exactly. The ones that said I got home when it said a, the mayor and the horse and the horse’s neck. I was like, I have no idea.

Christie:
Yeah. I don’t even remember it. Is it not funny? How inspiration is so fleeting? Like you’re like, Oh I’ll remember that. And how important to you is again, write things down, right?

Emily:
You have to write things down. Yes. So the count, my gratitudes every morning that brings so much joy. Just to remember, like I said, I have this little alter that I made and I have 12 stones and I don’t know why there are a 12, but somewhere someone said just doesn’t have 12 I I literally don’t know what to everyone. I gather them up and I say a gratitude for each one and I put them down and then I light a little candle and then I go do my reading and then I have all these little cards, like what do I have serial or anything that comes into a cardboard box at the end, I cut the cardboard up into little note cards just because its like good to jot things down.

Emily:
But now I actually jumped gratitudes on those and I have this little trunk and I put it in every day. Oh that’s beautiful. So like on the days that’s a bad day. You could just reach in and grab one and read it and see the day in what was going on. I’m glad you liked it,

Christie:
Which is in the bad days because this is important. When we started out the episode, talking about how, you know, it’s important to write things down and I believe that it’s also for those bad days. So we have, we can have a checklist to go through, you know, like how do you get yourself out of a funk?

Emily:
Yes. Are you asking me or you just,

Christie:
Yes, it’s rhetorical. But if you would like to answer the question, I’d love to hear it.

Emily:
Well I think first of all, I think its good to embrace whatever is going on because oftentimes like you can’t, you can’t step over stuff. You really have to go through because if you try to step over, it doesn’t really get solved. It gets like sort of shoved in the back of the drawer, like an old cheese sandwich, which then, you know, you can imagine what the old cheese sandwich will smell. Like when you remember that it’s there. So I think that you really need to work through things rather than, you know, just getting out of them. But I think oftentimes, you know, if you change your physiology, it really does change your mood.

Emily:
So whether it’s putting on a song and literally having a dance party for a minute or even like doing jumping jacks or like telling a joke, like anything like little things to just shift, shift your shift, your energy yeah.

Christie:
Is what you focus on expands as we know. Right. Totally. Yeah. I almost see, I almost see like writing a letter to your future self, having a bad day and saying, okay, these are the things that will get you out of it because it’s going to be different for everyone. Just like we were talking about before, like what works for someone isn’t gonna work for somebody else. So the gratitude trunk is such a good idea. You could. I mean, when we’re feeling low, it’s kind of hard to get to gratitude. That’s on the opposite side of this spectrum. That, to be able to just reach your hand in there and just read a few cards and say, you know what, and also making a meaningful, not just like, you know, I’m grateful for my house, but like why, why are you grateful for your house?

Emily:
yeah. I’m getting a distressed. Yeah. The thing is that we’ll actually transport you to the feeling of the gratitude, you know, Oprah. It just says, someone asked over what is her favorite gratitude and I love it so much. Thank you. Just thank you and it’s so, you know, we forget, we were lucky. Like sometimes listen, I’m not, I’m not like, you know, I’m not a, I’m trying to think of like some like a Paris Hilton.

Emily:
I don’t know. I mean like, I don’t know what her spiritual life is like, but like, you know, there are people that I am not, I’m not Oprah. I’m not over. Let’s do that, but wow. I’m lucky. Yeah. Wow. I’m like gee whiz. I am lucky. Yeah.

Christie:
Well the thing is you can’t really compare your, your backstage to someone else’s front-stage you really don’t. I mean, you really don’t know Oprah, for example, right. You really don’t know who she is other than what she has on her front stage and what she has or what she has to deal with. Like you could probably guess, but you probably don’t know, like it’s like an iceberg. You can see the little tip of it, but you can’t see what’s below the surface and it’s a lot, you know, a lot more below the surface than what you can imagine. So yeah, I do think its important to, to really be grateful for what we each have because we’re different, you know, we’re all different and we choose, we choose, we get to choose.

Emily:
But now, and not only do we choose, but we choose like we choose the thoughts that are useful because we, we make up everything. And so you can choose things that inspire you and you can choose things that make you feel like garbage. And I think that a lot of the times, you know, we forget, we think it’s and its not true. You know like, especially like back to the whole, like the Corona virus situation. I don’t know why I keep talking about it. Well, yeah, I know. I keep talking about it because you don’t, I’m in my house right now and like it’s a huge right now in the world. Yeah. It affects everyone in the world to everyone in the world.

Emily:
And my sister lives in Paris and they are on lockdown and they got a, she got a or something this morning that’s a bit even like bicyclists and joggers are only permitted to go to a one kilometer from home. So it’s, it’s crazy. Yeah. It’s crazy. But definitely an adjustment. It is an adjustment, but what I was going to say, it was like people, they, they worry about what will happen. And I think that, you know, you prepare and then you gotta let go because unless it actually happens, then you can be in that world and then you will take one next, right step after another, you know, making your best choice with what you have at the time.

Emily:
But unless it actually happens, there is like a, it’s a big smokescreen, you know, to, to keep you from what you do, what you can focus on. Yeah, you can.

Christie:
Yeah. The, the, the future is an illusion and it’s not set in stone and any choice we make today can affect the future, you know? And there’s no point in guessing what the future may hold. You can’t predict.

Emily:
No. Like when you try to you, you put one foot in front of the other one next right step. But you know, you’re working towards something, but you have no guarantee what will happen. Like there’s, there’s no, like there’s no real cause and effect. Like sometimes you’ll take a lot of steps. And then the thing that you thought you were getting was not the thing that you get, you get something over there, but it was still because you took those steps. Right, right. Yep.

Christie:
Yep. Totally. So you talk in your work about how to be a master of your own misery. Can you speak a little bit about that and what that means?

Emily:
Well, they say that you have mastery over anything that you spend 10,000 hours on. And I was writing this book and what I discovered, cause I was like, what is my mastery? I’m like, is it, this, is it that, is it, this is it that, and I realized that what it was was misery at the time I had been in a place where I was so miserable for a such a long period of, but that was the thing that I had focused on. That was the thing that I could write a book about that with the thing that I could teach you while I was sleeping.

Emily:
And the beautiful thing about that, because there’s always the beautiful thing about whatever it is, is that I can reverse engineer that I could create anything like it, it’s a matter of, I think what you call your attention to. And again, you know, as we were saying, like what you focus on increases. So when you focus on like something bad, something negative scarcity, scarcity scarcity. Yes. When you get more of a

Christie:
Yup. Exactly, exactly. And you know, it, it, it, it is, I think it’s it, the situation is teaching us to be more present, more mindful, you know, and for some of us it’s, you know, being more present with our families, you know, and snuggling with our kids. And you know, like you said, all we can really have control of as what we’re doing right now in the moment or what we’re thinking right now. And the moment, and the best thing we can do is create joy. Right. That’s, that’s, that’s really what I feel like this life is all about.

Christie:
Its like to find joy, to experience joy

Emily:
Yes. Every day, as much as you possibly can. I think that right now we’re all sort of hunker down and its like, what? Like what’s beautiful about this. What’s great about this moment. Like how can I use this time to go within and really, and really use it too, to create more joy for me, for you, for my daughter, for her dad, for humanity, you know, like all of us, I was watching, I made this mistake of turning on the news and because I, I don’t, I don’t do the news.

Emily:
Like I, if I do a senior in high from a, for five minutes and then when the timer rings, I’m done with the news, but I turned it on and there was, this was a story about guns and how gun people buying guns was at an all time high. And they were interviewing people and there was this guy and he was like, well, you know, at some point we’re going to run out of food and then you got to protect what’s yours. And I thought, Oh my God, like I never even occurred to me. Like what, what like an opposite of what, what an interesting thing to spend you’re to spend your precious time on contemplating, right?

Christie:
Yeah. I know. Well, it’s good. It’s good to be prepared by the, at the same time you don’t want to like spend your whole entire day trying to think of every single contingency. And this is true. Whether, you know, you’re on lockdown right now, listening to this or if you’re, you know, if you’re just talking about your business, right?

Emily:
Yeah.

Christie:
I’ve, I’ve worked with a lot of entrepreneurs and there’s a huge difference between someone who is focused on growth and someone who is focused on protecting whatever they have, you know?

Emily:
Yes, yes, definitely. And, and investing in your business so that your Business is the best it can be to serve whoever it is that you serve. Right. Yep.

Christie:
It’s stuck a little bit about creation on, in one of our last talks together, we were talking a lot about invention and creation and you made, you made a remark, which was pretty interesting that nothing is a as satisfying as the invention and creation. Now I totally agree with that. It, it goes right in line with what we’re talking about today. And a lot of people don’t think that they’re very creative. They don’t like, we’re not talking about becoming an inventor and invent something like Thomas Edison. We’re not talking about being a creative, like Walt Disney, what are we talking about?

Emily:
I don’t remember. Well, what I mean, take me back, take me back on track. Sometimes I just go with my creative energy. Yeah.

Christie:
Yeah. I mean, well, we’re talking about some of the things that can kill creation and innovation. And one of, one of the videos that I have on my website is about how a lot of times when we buy like into a formula, like a one to three step method, you know, we do that because try to figure it all out on our own could be scary. You know, what, if we do it wrong, we kind of have a feel of a fear of failure, you know? But the whole idea behind innovation is that you’re okay with failure. You’re okay to fail, you know, nine or 10 times. And then you finally happen on to something that is new and fresh and innovative.

Christie:
And so, especially in business, when we’re talking about how things are changing so quickly, I really believe that the formulas and the methods that we may have even bought as a core, even like as, as, as late as, you know, three months ago, we will be irrelevant. And another three months, you know, just look at how much life has changed in the last couple of weeks with this, you know, again, Corona, sorry, its like a drinking game. I don’t drink, but its like a drinking game and keep saying it. But you know, it, it where the world is changing so quickly.

Christie:
And so we, we need to be okay with creating in the moment and be okay with not knowing what tomorrow looks like and be okay with, you know, what this thing that I might want to try might fall flat, but I’m going to try it anyway. You know, we’ve, I feel like the currency of, of whenever we emerge out of this, the currency will be innovation and creativity. And that’s not really what we talked about last time. These are, I’m just free-flowing this is like how I feel. And so it’s like, you know, how are you going to operate?

Christie:
And the future now now is the time to start looking at that and looking at who you are, what makes you Joyful you know, if you, if you hate business your business right now, for some reason that’s a clue. You’re not enjoying something. What needs to change? What needs to shift your thoughts?

Emily:
Well, I think that so many people or a lot of businesses sound very similar totally because people are afraid to, to show up as only they can and to say the unpopular thing and take something that’s working and, you know, take a hard left and to shoot for the moon or shoot for something different.

Emily:
And you know, like I used to call myself a Joyologist and people would be like, what are you certified in that? I was like, listen, Life coach, I didn’t even exist. You know, 10 years ago or 15 years ago or 20 years ago or whatever it is, I’m just judging like, like at some point someone was like, I’m going to create a certification for this, but there wasn’t one. Right? And I think that, I think that we pave the way as we take risks for others to also take risks. I think what was it? Jesse Owens ran the first four minute mile and no one had done it.

Emily:
And then all of a everyone do they come in and able to do it because someone had come before them. And so you can be the one that comes first. And the thing is, people talk about like overnight success, but they don’t see the 20 years you were in your garage with your thoughts and your laptop or, or whatever. I just, I think that there was a time and there’s a time now for women that wasn’t there before. I was speaking with someone the other day and she’s doing this thing called the grandma a project. And it’s talking about people’s grandmothers and like our relationship with them and what was the available to them and women now, like this is our time to like humanity rests, like literally humanity rests on our shoulders.

Emily:
We are the creators of humanity without us. There is none.

Christie:
Now why do you say that? That’s curious, like why would you say just women and kind of cut out men What

Emily:
Well, well, you know, actually if you say it that way, men can have way more babies than women, but they can’t have babies without women or

Christie:
Women

Emily:
Need to agree. Women need to be on board to continue Life

Christie:
Yep. This is true. Yeah. And I mean to that point, I mean all of us have creative energy inside of us. It’s our life force. Right? And, and when we suppress that creative life force, when we follow what others are doing and their formulas and not creating our own formulas and writing them down, as we were talking about before, you know, something inside of us dies a little bit or gets a little stagnant.

Emily:
I know.

Christie:
And I’ve seen it. I’ve seen a lot of businesses that come to me and they’re stagnant and it’s because they’ve been following what their mastermind has been telling them, or they have been following some guru’s method and not asking questions, asking hard questions. Does this resonate with me kind of like the book you were sharing about before? Yeah, it does. It resonate with me. Do I believe these things really? Is there something about it that I would like to change and then having the courage to take a risk and do things a little differently and that’s how you, you will get noticed.

Christie:
That’s how you’ll attract your ideal customers,

Emily:
Right? Yes. To have the, and, and to have the om and to have the wherewithal to go first and you be the one that paves the way I was walking once and on my Bliss Walk and it was dark. And as I’m walking down this street, there’s a branch in the road and there was someone walking behind me and as I get to the branch, I’m like, I almost tripped over it. And like, Oh, this branch, like, like, and I think that it’s just such a great illustration of paving the way for those behind you, by being the one to call out branch, not being the one that’s like, Oh, okay, there’s going to be a branch somewhere.

Emily:
And I mean, not that there is anything wrong with that. Like that’s awesome. I think we are all of the teacher. We are all the students.

Christie:
Yeah. I agree. And, and The the unfortunate thing that I see sometimes out there with people who are leaders online is, you know, this feeling of knowing it all or not having a beginner’s mind and not, not being willing to try new things like its your way or the highway, it’s your, your formula or not. You know, this is the only way to be successful in business. This is the only, you know, I can’t stand that when someone says this is the only one way or this there’s only two ways are whatever, you know, it’s like that just automatically makes me say, you know what, I’m going to find a different one.

Emily:
And you know, it’s like, what I have found to work is this, this is what has made a difference for me. What do you think? What has made as a difference for you? Exactly. What could we create together with my way and your way? Right. Exact brand spanking new.

Christie:
Exactly. Yeah. I mean, that’s I say that all the time, its like when two different elements come together, they make a new one and that’s that’s alchemy that’s innovation. And so yeah, I agree. It’s not his way or her way. It’s like, you know, you can take all of these things and mix them up and make something totally new. Yes. So let’s, let’s talk a little bit about your get out of a funk list. Like what are some things that you would you have written down for when you’re having a bad day or when you’re, you know, not feeling on your game, what is it that you do to, I mean, you said either six things in your recipe, are there any other things like, do you go and get a green juice or do you, you, you know, watch some favorite show of years?

Christie:
Like what are, what are some of the things let’s give people some ideas so they can write some things down.

Emily:
Oh I, the dog, I cooked something. I think that the kitchen, I was a chef for 25 years. So the, the kitchen is a sanctuary for me. And I happened to be a genius at, I cooked like our ancestors cooked. Like I cooked, like I cooked like the immigrants cook. Like I, I, I’m not HelloFresh. I’m not plated. I’m not any of those where like the box arrives and you have like a little thing and soy sauce and like for Brussels sprouts, I’m like, Hm, I’ve got these like wilted greens and the vegetable band.

Emily:
And I have got some cells on it. What is it? An egg? And I, you know, when I make these like miraculous thing, so I feel like sometimes even like my house smells the best one I have a lot to do because it’s definitely a place that I can, it’s the place where I go to hide as well. You know? And I think that, I think it’s important to acknowledge that you said you were a life coach or you’re some sort of a person that people hire to help them with their lives. I think it’s really, it’s hard to admit and to really like to share the places where you stumble and Zack, you stumble because if I’m not perfect and I don’t have it exactly right all the time and I’m showing this base to the world, why would someone hire me?

Emily:
And I think that, I think that for me, my people like that, I am transparent and I am authentic and I am clunky, not smooth. It’s how I roll I’m. So sometimes one of the things that the other day I got to get myself in my phone for the funk lists, I made my own tick talk account. Cause I don’t know if, I don’t know if you know, a tick tock is what I want to learn to dance and I’m not a good dancer. And like there’s all these moves. There’s like, like, so like tick-tock is a really fun, like I think that when you do something that’s not expected, that will just really put you in a great way to, unless you suck at it or you have a 13 year old, like I do, he was like, Oh my God, mom, it’s adorable.

Emily:
How you think you can, you know, blah, blah, blah, what else do I do? I might take a coffee break. I might have a, this some shows that I watch. I have a, like a Monday night lineup that I enjoy. And sometimes I’ll, I’ll take a break and I’ll watch something. The problem is a Netflix is it happened so fast that if you sit down to watch, when it’s like six hours later and you didn’t remember hitting, you know, so I don’t recommend Netflix and it goes to fast. Yeah, it is. It, it, it puts your conscious mind asleep actually a little bit. It could, those images are going straight into your subconscious mind.

Emily:
And, and that’s why there’s such a thing as binge watching because you really do forget your, you know, sitting there just vegging. Well, it’s not even that it’s that it will say the next episode will start in three, two when you’re trying to stop it. And then it goes right in and you’re like, okay, I’ll just watch this one. Yeah. That’s funny. All right. How can people learn more about what it is that you do? And then after you tell us that, why don’t you end us off with a final thought?

Emily:
Ah, okay. So my website, my website is live a joyful life.com. And so you can find me there and it says how to contact me a little bit more about me. Although I think, you know, quite a lot about me at this point. So yes, Libby Joyful Life dot com. And my final thought is that joy is tangible and everything is tangible. And so when you think about joy, its not like you, you know, fluffy and its not, Oh, that would be nice.

Emily:
Like literally everything is joy from the smell of your kid’s head while they’re sleeping to the, you know, the million dollar deal that you closed, which I have not done yet. Everything, everything, everything is tangible and joyous, tangible. And when you get to that place, everything that you create comes from joy.